All’s fair in love and war.  What does that saying really mean?  Are they saying there is a similarity between the two?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.

The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.  A once loving couple is now fighting constantly.It is my main purpose is to be able to bring peace between the couple.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.

So what are some signs that trouble is brewing?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.  Or should I say lack of communication.  For any relationship, communication is key.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.  It is a warning sign of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.Because if you are not able to communicate effectively, any small thing can turn into a huge problem.  Proper communication helps avoid that.

So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the keys to unlocking the ability to communicate is the ability to listen.Most people when they think of communicating think it is about talking.But truthfully if you are unable to listen very well, you won’t really be able to understand each other.  So by helping the couple listen better their communication improves greatly.

By recognizing this sign couples can know trouble may be brewing.  If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From what I have seen probably the best method of solving issues is to not have them in a relationship.But if you don’t spot that sign early, the prime way to solve the problem is to learn how to communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.