All is far in love and war.  What does that saying really mean?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?  I am not sure if that is what they are saying but there are similarities between the two.

The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There may still be love between the couple but a lot of times they will act as if they are in a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples counseling San Diego.  A once loving couple is now fighting constantly.It is my objective to help bring peace between the two people.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.

So what are some signs that trouble is brewing?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.Or should it be said lack of any communication.  For any relationship, communication is key.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.it is a sign trying to let you know trouble is starting.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or as a marriage counselor in San Diego I see it all the time.Because in essence if the couple is not able to communicate, any little problem can turn into a big problem.Being able to properly communicate in a relationship helps to stop that.

So as a family therapist San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.  One of the biggest keys to communication is listening.Most people when they think of communicating think it is about talking.  But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other.  So by helping the couple listen better their communication improves greatly.

By being able to recognize a sign like that, a couple will be better able to spot trouble starting.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them.  But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.  Sounds simple but it will have a major affect.